How to Use Play Therapy in Prisons to Create Hope

• Common Therapeutic Themes in Inmates
• How to Use Play Therapy in Prison
• Clinical Case Study: Hope Shatters the Darkness
• Final Reflections on the Healing Power of Play Therapy

Imagine this scene with me: 15 men sitting across from each other at a long table, deeply engrossed in building with LEGOs. Joking and laughter punctuate moments of serious concentration as pieces of LEGOs are found and various minifigures find their place within the emerging structures. In another group, there is the eruption of victorious joy and the groan of agonizing defeat as the men play a variety of board and skill-based games in small groups and pairs. Two of the men simply throw a rubber ball to each other, a timeless game of catch.

Common Therapeutic Themes in Inmates

Grown men playing and telling stories from their play?! Yes, the scenes described above take place in a prison, a place where themes of “play” and “play therapy” are not usually enacted.

This work was born from my realization that if play could heal wounds in my adolescent and adult private-practice clients, it could be a powerful agent in reconnecting a former inmate with his child. After witnessing that reconnection firsthand, I could not get the thought out of my head of how many fathers there must be sitting behind bars, isolated from their children.

I discovered that there are many. There is also a great deal of recidivism, as incarcerated men face not only the daunting task of assimilating back into life outside of prison walls and the demanding requirements of parole, but also of rejoining families, rebuilding careers, and adjusting to a new chapter post-incarceration.

For many, it is overwhelming and confusing. Low self-worth, lack of self-awareness, deficient resources for self-repair, and difficulties in self-regulation contribute mightily to probation violations, inability to establish steady jobs, and difficulty reassimilating into their families and communities.

I soon discovered that prior to their time in the penal system, many of these men had spent time in foster care. I heard stories of abandonment, abuse, and self-rejection, often resulting in alcohol and drug abuse. It became painfully clear that many of the men were in desperate need of self-repair, and that these unresolved wounds played a large part in not being able to rebuild their life after leaving prison.

I experienced firsthand through my visits that prison is terrifying and chaotic. I have never witnessed a more stressful and unpredictable environment. For each visit, I passed through four checkpoints with buzzers, and the ominous and jarring sound of iron and steel slamming behind me. I would then walk a quarter mile surrounded by razor wire that gleamed in the sun like wolf teeth. I was constantly reminded of the utterly unforgiving conditions and lack of beauty that embodies this place.

I was, and still am, continually alert for the unpredictable, while at the same time, buoyed by my playful interactions with the men. Deep within this place there is a room where something miraculous happens. It is where play transcends the bonds of despair, transporting men — if only for brief moments — to a place of inner freedom and exploration.

How to Use Play Therapy in Prison

The Play in Prison Project that I developed is multi-faceted. It is scaffolded within the framework of “self-development” built upon the psychic Lego pieces of self-regulation, self-understanding, self-acceptance/forgiveness, and self-repair. Group members are taught self-regulation skills, how to identify negative schemas and change them, and how to build tools to identify and express feelings in an adaptive, prosocial way.

Play is woven throughout each of the group activities which incorporate the use of building toys, toy figures, games, and expressive art material (drawing and painting) designed to create a sense of safety, while also stimulating a curious mindset as new narratives of self are created. Overall, play is the glue and the foundation, making it possible for these men to be anchored in the here and now, looking at the self through the lens of this very moment while staying regulated and processing emotions and thoughts in real-time with the other men in the group.

Within the structure of this group, my role is that of a play therapist: tracking, reflecting, affirming, and even joining in play if invited. Through the group processing, I facilitate discussion using summaries, reflections of content and meaning, and affirming the observations and insight of the group members.

As a play therapist, I have spent years observing and joining others in play. I play regularly as an open-water swimmer, basking in the feeling of being lost in something huge while adapting my body to whatever the ocean offers me that day. Play lessens defenses. After just a few minutes, the men are laughing and conversing; even those that are silent often emit a smile.

Play allows for self-expression and ownership with no apologies, as evidenced by a victory whoop, and the feeling of mastery as a creation finds its way to completion. Play creates pathways for language. The men share stories through their creations, identifying emotions, and expressing themselves without shame or pretense. Play breeds a spirit of authenticity and presence. During our play, many of the men have new realizations of their worth and value as they can be present and comfortable.

Play is healing. The men can return to something awful that occurred in their pre-prison life, playing it out sometimes non-verbally, and changing the outcome based on what they know about themselves in the present moment. Play allows for connection and relationship building.

An all-too-common theme within prison walls is the lurking paranoia of being unsafe and the urge not to trust anyone. The men practice bonding through play, and elements of rough and tumble play within competitive gaming allow for the testing of these bonds.

Finally, play allows for self-repair. Through storytelling, the men engage in working through conflict with others, opening pockets of shame and self-rejection, and finding forgiveness that comes through creative and intentional play.

Clinical Case Study: Hope Shatters the Darkness

Jimmy has three years left to serve on a 15-year sentence. He is a father of two adult children and has grandchildren.

Jimmy was raised by his grandmother after his own mother lost her parental rights due to drug use and incarceration. Jimmy never knew his father. His grandmother passed away when Jimmy was nine, and he went to live with extended family members.

Eventually, Jimmy ended up in foster care where he remained until he turned 18. This period of his life was turbulent and involved many foster placements, poor school performance, and return stays in various juvenile detention centers. As Jimmy entered adulthood, he became involved in street life, leading to arrests and eventually long-term incarceration.

Jimmy was drawn to the Play in Prison Project because of his desire to rebuild his relationship with his adult children. He admitted that he carried shame and suffered daily from remorse and self-loathing. Life had hardened him, and he wore that hardness as a shield.

The toy he chose to represent himself in the first session was a big truck with blacked-out windows. “I’m big, people see me coming, but I keep everything hidden from everyone. When things get hard, I drive away.” During LEGO play, Jimmy created a tall building and used LEGO minifigures to represent guards. “I’ve tried my whole life to protect myself because nobody was there to protect me.” During a play session using expressive arts, he drew a dark cave with a solitary figure. “My brain tells me I’m living the life I deserve. My choices have put me here and there’s no light in sight.”

Halfway through The Project, Jimmy told the group that he wrote a letter to his children and had received one back in return. He wept as he read part of it aloud — it contained words of anger and hurt. The group helped Jimmy see that even though the letter was painful, it was at least an opportunity to communicate.

Play in the form of competitive games helped Jimmy to see and slowly accept himself in the moment. Playing a game in which he and a partner were paired together, he realized that it was not realistic to judge himself based on his past. Using LEGO bricks and minifigures, he built a large house with windows and an open door. The minifigures represented his children, grandchild, friends, and other family members.

He told the group he felt empowered to respond to the letter he received because of slowly learning to evaluate himself more fairly and positively in the present, as opposed to the horrible and painful events of his past. “The old me would have just stayed away. I don’t want to do that anymore.”

At the final session of the group, Jimmy drew a shattered cave with light streaming out of it, emanating from the solitary figure. At the end of the rays of light were people that represented his family and community. At the top of the picture, he wrote the words, “Free in My Light.”

Final Reflections on the Healing Power of Play Therapy

The Play in Prison Project has provided me with a rare opportunity to witness the power of play in a dark place with forgotten people. At this stage in The Project, I am volunteering because I saw a need in my community.

I am gathering data with the hope of submitting a grant to expand this work with other practitioners of play into other facilities. I have learned to be particularly mindful of being respectful of the institution, its employees, and its residents.

There are far too many examples of good programs that were started in prison settings for the purpose of research but ended abruptly when the researchers moved on. Because play and play therapy are novel and nourishing experiences, they were quickly, and perhaps not unsurprisingly, embraced during participation in The Project. Group members enjoyed the opportunity for safety and self-expression in an otherwise hostile environment where self-defense, hopelessness, and a constant state of vigilance were necessary for survival, both emotional and physical.

Some of the incidental comments in the surveys I collected and positive behavioral outcomes of The Project were a testament to the power of play in creating self-understanding and self-regulation. “For the first time in my life, I have learned to stay relaxed and not react.”

Comments about play creating a pathway for self-forgiveness and self-repair often surfaced: “I finally understand that I’m not the person who did the things that got me here; it’s part of my story, but I am who I choose to be in this moment.”

Play for some of these men led them closer to authenticity, intentionality, and connection in their everyday lives, helping to step closer to erasing shame, isolation, anger, and despair. Not uncommonly, I heard comments like, “I reached out to my children/grandchildren; I rebuilt the relationship with my wife/family members; now I know how to play with my kids, and I look forward to seeing them at visitation because I’m not ashamed of who I am anymore.”

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